Attachments

A new born attracted to the person who fulfill his / her basic requirements for the most. That’s obviously his mother & father. But at the beginning the new born only identify that being, as just as the most beneficial person in his / her life. Then when the child grow and begins to talk he / she label this person as "Mother" or "Father"…

That’s why even if a child switched at birth doesn’t even care about who the real parents are until they find a problem with the attachment. The child recognize the most beneficial person as the one who feed when hungry, and fulfill other requirements when need them the most.

Then the child seeks the company of this person. He / she like to be with them… when they are not around they cry. That's how most of the kids cry as soon as they awake from the sleep.

When they in deep sleep they don't need all these things so they don't worry on been alone. But when they slight sleep or awake they need their person who fulfills their requirements just to make sure that his / her existence is safe. It can be his / her mother, father or someone else… the child doesn’t care as long as he / she is beneficial.

That is why I used the word "Beneficial"… in simple word we are born with the quality of selfishness / egotism. We love to entertain ourselves from the very beginning. We like to have the things as the way we desire from the very beginning. We have hopes, we have a wish to fulfill our needs.

As long as we are fulfilled we are happy and attaching to the source which cause to fulfill our needs. As long as we are lacking of the comfort we seek… we are restless, we are stressed, and we suffer. Aren't we? We are just so attached to the benefits which please us and we attached to everything which are beneficial to us.

We like to cover this ugliness with beautiful words by labeling them “beloved ones, love, unconditional love, relationships, etc...”

This is kind of ugly truths from the birth are something which we are not so happy to reveal or even discuss. That’s a one reason that Buddhism is bit out-caste from most of the beings by telling that it is talking negativity.

That’s why I said from the beginning, that the braveness and Buddhism is so connected. Only if you are brave enough to face this ugly truth you can surely end up with the pure happiness and real unconditional love and beautiful relationship with your own self as well as with everyone around you.

How the law of impermanence related to this emotion?

When the law of impermanency applied for the things we loved & like, we feels pain & suffering.  But when it applies to the things we don’t like or love then we feel happy.  In such occasions we attached to those situations, and with everything related to that situation. 

What happen if the law of impermanence wasn’t there in this world? 

So as you see the law of impermanence doesn’t bring only suffering or pain it also cause to bring happiness and joy to the mind. 

Be wise… think wise… let’s continue with the wisdom!